January 26, 2002

Final Letter

 
Well this is REALLY the last letter. I was mixed up on my days last time so I had one more day than I thought. You would be surprised how difficult it is to remember the day of the week let alone the date.

 
I have seen the weather you are having in Detroit. Figures when I try to skip the coldest weather it gets warm. I cannot complain, obviously. Here you just wonder if it will be sunny and hot or sunny and hotter.
 
I spent my day yesterday doing the mundane here in Bangkok. There are other tours and things I could do, but it is the everyday and mundane that I find so fascinating.
 
I had dropped my laundry at a place near my hotel. I went to pick it up and as is common everywhere here, personnel is not a problem. Three young woman greeted me with the usual "Good morning, Sir" and a bow. My laundry was given to me pressed, folded and even my jeans on hangers. They make a special effort to allow one woman to accept payment, about
$10.00 for a bunch of laundry. The other two girls stand at the door, although the area is so small we are almost shoulder to shoulder. Each hands me a bag, bows, and says "thank you, sir, have a nice day". Picture that at One Hour Martinizing!
 
The multitude of girls dressed in blue sarongs smile, and wave each time I pass the barber shop so why not? Three woman take care of cutting my hair, giving me a manicure and a neck and face massage. About $7.00. No daughter, not a sex shop. In front of all glass windows and totally legitimate.
 
I had lunch with my friend Pam who has many ideas as to how I should come here after I retire and start some business venture. She is very intelligent and some ideas are not bad. As I am sure you know saying good bye is always hard. But I feel this is a friendship that is not over but has just begun.
 
I went to the bar at the hotel where they were having a special party. Beer and whiskey were free from 7PM until 9PM. Now that is a happy hour! They have some very good bands and singers here. It is still funny to hear English lyrics with the Thai accents and long hair Asian drummers.

 

I took a taxi later with Jane to see where she actually lives with her sister. As I said before it is a poor family. Each time I take a trip around Bangkok I realize I have just scratched the surface. It is a sprawling city of extremes with great modern, high rise offices and apartments and the near slums I have previously described. You can go everywhere by one of the thousands of  "suicide taxis", for no more than $6-$7 and usually more like $2 if not far.
 
Her home was in a "low rent district" where it looks like just rows of garage doors, side by side and no more than 3 feet from the edge of the road. After we stopped I find that you slide open the door and behind it is what can be described as a carport area (no car) and behind that the small living space. One room on the first floor, with a stairway to the second where the two small bedrooms and bathroom are. There is laundry neatly hanging along the walls in the living room as Jane's sister works out of this space doing laundry for a living. The floors are tile and as everywhere, spotless
 
I haven't touched much on the nightlife that is so a part of this city. After visiting, it is another high speed taxi ride into the heart of the city. We decide to walk through one of the notorious sex scene areas one reads about called Nana. I had also seen what is called Soi Cowboy the previous evening.

 
It is really a shame that this city and country is so famous for the sex trade. These areas are probably no more than a few square blocks in size. There are many woman out front or seated at open air bars loaded with 'farang' tourists. Inside the couple of bars I have been in they are tame compared to American standards.

 

They have dancers dressed in bikinis, but they are not topless, there are no lap dances and no lewd behavior. There are some "show bars" where the acts get extreme but they are few in number and you would have to search them out. I sat at an outside bar in the middle of this where the barmaid, Jane and I played a type of board game on the counter while talking (what a party animal).
 
The big difference, I guess, is that the women are so available as they will "leave" with the customer in many cases. The women at the bars and on the street are in appearance no different than the others. There are very few extreme outfits, and the woman are all beautiful. Once one leaves these specific areas however you do not see solicitation.

 

Also I do not think neighborhood bars exist. At least I have not seen any except in tourist areas. It is a shame the reputation this country has received from this small part of the culture.
 
We sit in the hotel and have some desert about 1:00AM. It is amazing to watch the steady parade of 'farang' with beautiful Thai woman on their arm. I wonder what their story is (you have heard mine)? I claim to be visiting with friends and spending legitimate vacation time. What are they doing and where do all the woman come from? Can they all be from bars?

 

Bangkok is also a very large multinational business center area. When walking around the streets during the day one sees the professional woman, mostly all beautiful and always well dressed, going about their business. At night you see the woman who appear the same on the arms of the tourist . There are a million stories I would love to hear.
 
As I walk past the multitude of street wears being sold, the tailor shops asking me for the hundredth time if I want custom shirts or suits in 24 hours, the drug stores with the signs "Viagara and Rogaine, no prescription necessary" , and the innumerable legitimate massage parlours, the one song refrain that keeps going through my mind is "You can get anything you want, at Alice's restaurant".
 
Tonight I am taking a dinner cruise on the Chai Phraya river which runs through the heart of Bangkok. I am picking out my last souvenirs, packing and taking my last kamikaze taxi trip to Bangkok airport. Hard to believe it is over (at least for this trip)...